Recording agreements with the other parent
Co-parents agree to things outside the order all the time: "you take Easter weekend this year and I'll take Memorial Day," "pickups move to 6:00 while I'm on the new shift," "the kids can do the extra week of camp." Months later, nobody remembers exactly what was said or when. The Agreements page is where you write those down, with the proof attached, so "he agreed by text on March 3 to swap Easter weekend" is on your record instead of in your memory.
The Agreements page is private to you, like everything else in Custody Proof. The other parent has no account, never sees your agreements, and is never asked to confirm anything. It is your own record of what was agreed and how you know.
Recording an agreement
Open Agreements from the sidebar (on a phone, it's in the menu at the top right) and choose Record an agreement. You'll fill in:
- What did you agree? One short line, for example "Swap Easter weekend for Memorial Day weekend."
- Date agreed. The day the two of you agreed, not the day it takes effect.
- How it was agreed. Text message, email, in person, phone call, through attorneys, mediation, court order, or other.
- Dates it covers (optional). For a one-time swap, the weekend itself. For a lasting change, just the start date. Leave both empty if it doesn't apply.
- Which children it covers (optional). Tap each child, or Both / All. Leave it empty when the agreement is about the whole family.
- Details (optional). Who proposed it, the exact words, anything traded for it.
New agreements start as Active.
Attaching the proof
An agreement is much more useful with the message that shows it. You have two ways to attach proof:
- Pick from Evidence Vault. Choose screenshots, emails or notes you already saved. Communication entries are listed first, and you can search by note text or file name.
- Upload a screenshot. Pick one or more images or PDFs (up to 25 MB each). When you save, they are uploaded to your Evidence Vault as a single Communication entry and linked to the agreement, so the proof lives with the rest of your evidence too.
Each agreement shows its proof with a small preview, the file names, and a link that opens the entry in your Evidence Vault. Removing proof from an agreement only unlinks it; the entry stays in your vault. Deleting an agreement never deletes the linked evidence either.
Keeping the status current
Every agreement has a status, which you can change from the list at any time:
| Status | Use it when |
|---|---|
| Active | The agreement is still in force or hasn't happened yet. |
| Honored | It happened the way you agreed. |
| Broken | The other parent didn't follow it. |
| Withdrawn | One of you called it off before it happened. |
| Replaced | A newer agreement took its place. |
The list is grouped by status with active agreements first, and you can filter by child or by status.
When you mark an agreement Broken, Custody Proof offers to help you write up what happened, either as a note in your Evidence Vault (pre-filled with the agreement so you only add the details) or as a violation on your calendar. This is only an offer: nothing is created until you review it and tap Save, and you can choose Not now.
The Agreements report
Choose PDF report at the top of the Agreements page to download a report of your agreements. Pick a date range (by the date agreed), or leave the dates empty for everything; the child filter on the page applies too. The report is one table, oldest first, with the date agreed, what was agreed, how, the dates it covers, the current status, and the names of the proof files. The proof files themselves stay in your Evidence Vault, where you can download them or include them in an evidence export.
The Reports page has a shortcut card that brings you here.
Good habits
- Record the agreement the same day, while the messages are easy to find.
- Screenshot the whole exchange, including the date and the other parent's name or number at the top.
- Update the status after the date passes. A list of honored and broken agreements tells a clearer story than a list where everything still says Active.
- Keep agreements factual. Write what was agreed, not how you felt about it; save observations for your Evidence Vault.
Custody Proof is a documentation tool, not a law firm. An agreement recorded here doesn't change your court order. Ask a family law attorney how informal agreements are treated where you live.